In preparation of Father’s Day this June, take a moment to tell those special dads in your life how much you appreciate them. Biological fathers, stepfathers, and father figures you’ve grown to value and love…Happy Father’s Day to you!
As a Service member, fatherhood can present some extraordinary challenges, involving frequent physical separations from loved ones, non-conventional duty hours, and the inherent stressors involved in mission readiness. However, it is the strengths, values, and skills acquired in military service that can enhance family wellness.
Structure and Discipline
Structure and self-discipline support individual leadership and leadership in the home. Children look to their parents for direction and safety, creating a great opportunity to exemplify these valued traits. Army Community Service classes such as 1-2-3 Magic, Scream-Free Parenting, and Parenting 101 teach ourselves and our children self-discipline, strengthen areas of confidence, and management of difficult emotions.
The Importance of Mental Health Awareness
The warrior ethic of perseverance, resiliency, and strength are ingrained during the first few days of Service member basic training. When things get tough, one is taught to push through and endure, and thus, sometimes the idea of “self-care” and asking for help are seen as weaknesses. Occasionally, our thoughts and feelings can create roadblocks in our individual and familial wellness, and recognizing that outside support may be beneficial at times to assist us in navigating these roadblocks is strength.
Fathers that prioritize their own mental health needs demonstrate to their children that it is OK to ask for help when needed. If you require resources to address your own mental health needs or underlying stresses within the home, our Military Family Life Consultants (MFLCs) are a great resource for providing free and confidential, solution-focused counseling that can be accessed in-person or by phone. Additionally, our New Parent Support Program (NPSP) provides in-home support and education for expectant Families and Families with children ages 0 to 4.
Come visit us at ACS for any self or parenting needs. Our ohana has the tools and resources available to ensure that you thrive in your time in Hawaii in your fatherhood, parenthood, partnership, and individuality.